Introducing Jayden's Place

Introducing Jayden's Place

How did Jayden's Place come to be? Well, ore than a decade ago, a two-year-old girl with big brown eyes began coming to our house every Monday evening. Back then, my oldest child was 22, newly graduated from university and living in our basement. Anna wanted to help a friend by taking care of her daughter in the early evening hours so Lindsey could have a break from the arduous combination of working full time, finishing her university degree, and being a single mom to Jayden.

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Six Ways to Quiet during the Most Stressful Time of Year

Six Ways to Quiet during the Most Stressful Time of Year

Christmastime is often lauded as "the most wonderful time of the year," but it can feel more like the most stressful. Between a to-do-before-Christmas list as long as your arm and an abundance of festive activities, it's all too easy to let self-care go out the window. But the truth is that taking that extra moment to quiet can be the difference between a holiday season that leaves you exasperated and one that leaves you restored and renewed for the new year.

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Here Come the Holidays. . . And All the Family Drama

Here Come the Holidays. . . And All the Family Drama

It was another family gathering. Despite my determination to act more grown up, I was barely in the door before someone said something that triggered me. I immediately became obsessed with finding reasons I could blame them for the crummy way I felt. Does every holiday have to be like this? Arggghh! I thought. Not again. I was so sure I was making progress, but I am not acting like myself and I feel hopeless about ever changing.

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How I Acted like Myself at my Friend's Wedding (instead of that other perfectionistic person I used to be)

How I Acted like Myself at my Friend's Wedding (instead of that other perfectionistic person I used to be)

Weddings are some of the most joyous occasions, but as someone who struggles with anxiety, they can also be sources of tremendous stress. I’ve been in many weddings now, and they used to be punctuated by extreme distress—complete with feelings of inadequacy and devastation whenever the slightest thing went wrong. But recently, I have been learning more and more at each big, panic-inducing event to implement skills that I have learned through HCI so that I am inviting Immanuel into the ugly moments as well as the happy ones. 

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