Attachment 101

Attachment 101

God made us to attach to him and to others. Isn’t that amazing? If we don’t learn how to attach to God, how to trust in his love, care and provision the world can be an anxious place. If we don’t learn to attach to safe families around us either biological or spiritual, we will find something to cling to. It could be sugar, or performance, or cocaine. Our attachment style forms during our first 1000 days of life, from the moment of conception to our second birthday. During those same 1000 days, our brain grows. In the womb we grow our brain stem and the lower levels of our right hemisphere . . .

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The Social Needs of Babies

The Social Needs of Babies

What? you may be thinking. Is Betsy going to tell us that babies like to party and need a Facebook page? No. Not that. But they are social. Get this: according to Beatrice Beebe, Ph.D. babies begin seeking social interaction when they are only ten seconds old! In a world where parents are primarily concerned with their children’s physical (can he walk yet?) and cognitive (can he read yet?) development, I find the idea that babies have social needs absolutely fascinating. Studies show that meeting a baby’s social and emotional needs impacts their mental health not just during their childhood but for their entire life span . . .

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What Babies Need

What Babies Need

Babies need parents who delight in them, understand the stages of child development, and are fully mature. Let me unpack this a bit. When we are glad to be with our children, when we delight in them the way God delights in us, it builds joy. A baby‘s brain grows primarily during the first two years of life in response to joyful and peaceful interactions with his or her mother, or primary caregiver . . .

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Destination: Stillness

Destination: Stillness

Come experience a five-bar moment as told through the eyes of HCI’s leader, Heather Crow. A five-bar moment is a place you can go to in your mind where you can connect with Jesus. It can be a real memory of a time when you encountered God or it can be a new place where you experience a connection with him. Taking time to learn to quiet and develop five-bar moments is one of the most important things you can do with your time. 

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